~ by Lina Esa Öberg
The idea of working from home is very new to the Malaysian work scene. Working remote is almost an alien concept! One of our founders, Tazz Muhd-Poyer, is doing both! See how she manages to work, be a mom and deal with the time zone issues.
Can you tell us about yourself and how you got yourself to work from home?
I’m Tazz and I was once an English teacher. I enjoyed teaching immensely and still keep in touch with the kids I used to teach via social media and the occasional postcards. After I got married to an American, it was decided that I would quit teaching, as my impending move to the US would make that very difficult!
I had been writing for an online newspaper for about two years then, and found out they were looking for a new sub editor. Although my background was in education with a degree in teaching English as a Second Language (ESL) and I had no experience working in the media, thanks to my writing stint with them, my editor was more than happy to hire me as a sub editor. My bosses have been awesome and allowed us to work remotely. We work on the honour system, which means I do what I’m supposed to do, and they’ll continue allowing us to work remotely. So far it has worked out well and we are all happy with the arrangement.
Please tell us how your day starts and when do you start work?
My days start very early. I have requested to be put on the afternoon shift, which starts at 4pm Malaysian time, 4am US time. I wake up a bit earlier than 4, and work until noon, or 12am Malaysian time. I get a one-hour break, which I often use to cuddle with my baby or take care of some chores.
How do you organize your home and your work under one roof? Do you have a dedicated office space?
Usually in the morning, I work in the living room or at the kitchen table. My son sleeps mostly in the morning, so since our master bedroom is downstairs (and he still sleeps with us since we’re still nursing), it makes it easier to stay on the ground floor so I can hear him when he wakes up. During my shift, he’d play and explore the house.
We have a room upstairs, a playroom/sewing room. Sometimes I’d take him upstairs so he can play while I work. It all depends on how we feel that day. My house is pretty much my office. Sometimes I work in my jammies!
How do you organize your time between being a mom and work?
This is very hard to answer! I find myself being both at the same time sometimes. For example, sometimes especially when my son is younger, he wanted to be held all the time, so I had to hold him and focus on my work at the same time. Babywearing has helped me attend to his needs and focus on my work. If you are a working mother with a young baby, this might be the solution to your problem!
I feel like there need to be the ability to shift fluidly between the two roles. Some days my son wakes up earlier and refuses to go back to sleep, so I would have to entertain him or play with him. My colleagues usually very understanding when I tell them I need to attend to my son, and will cover for me while I am gone. The nature of my work is very flexible and so I don’t have a hard time deciding which is more important, my job or my family. Both are important to me, and I strive to be the best at doing both.
How disciplined do you need to be to do your work and to be a mom?
Since my work is shift-based, to me that time, 4-12 is time for me to work. Occasionally my son would come to me wanting attention and I would not be able to attend to him as there is a pressing story (that just came in which need to be upload NOW), so I would try to distract him with toys or books.
If you are a work-at-home-mom who freelances/run your own business, then there needs to be some sort of routine. Having a routine helps create that feeling that you are working. Make sure your child knows that there are time for work, and time when they can come and play with you. With a child as young as mine, that might be difficult to do, especially when to him, the computer is something else for him to chew on! But WAHM friends with older kids have shared that once explained, their children understand that mummy needs to work and will play independently during the specified time.
It is very easy to get sucked into watching the latest show on TV instead of focusing on your work, so make sure you dedicate some time for work and for leisure.
Sometimes I like having some music as background noise, especially when I’m working on something stressful. It helps your brain relax. If your work requires you to stare at the computer for hours like mine does, make sure you take a little break to rest your eyes.
Are you able to find work-life balance that is considered difficult to achieve by those who commute to an office?
Definitely. I love that I am able to work and generate an income while at the same time, be home with my son. I don’t have to leave the house, I’m able to watch my son grow and save on daycare costs (which is exorbitant here in the US). My editor has been kind enough to roster me to work on weekdays so I would have my weekends free to spend with my family. Occasionally I would be scheduled to work on a weekend, but since that very rarely happens, I do not mind it one bit when I have to. Plus, it is not hard for me to work, since I work from home and do not even need to leave my house.
The thing I love about being able to work from home is that I am not wasting time commuting and being stuck in traffic jams. I have some friends leaving home very early just to beat the traffic jam on their way to work, and spending close to 3 hours everyday just commuting. That sounds horrible to me, and I can never do that. Even when I was teaching, my house would be very near my workplace, one was so near I could hear the bell ring from my apartment!
My husband commutes to work, spending around 90 minutes each day in his car and he does not enjoy it. We could move closer to his workplace, but we really like where we are living now, as it is a safe, quiet neighborhood with a very good school nearby, so we feel it is a fair trade off.
After I finish work, I will prepare lunch, which takes about a couple of seconds to go from my workstation to the kitchen. Then I would play with my son, read with him or maybe bake. In the evening as we wait for daddy to come home, we do yoga together or go for a walk around the block. I feel like my time is better spent, on things that matter and I feel less stressed compared to when I had to physically be present at the office.
How do you communicate with your colleagues?
We get on GMail and use GChat to communicate with each other. We also have each other’s phone numbers in case the Internet cuts out (which does happen even in the US!). We are also friends on social media so we have various ways of communicating with each other.
Are you able to have a good social interaction with your colleagues?
Yes. Some of them I have never met in real life, but we talk so much with each other we have built a good relationship with one another. I share my baby’s pictures and they tell me about their lives. We trade stories about life, and share a laugh about a funny video. We usually meet when I’m in Malaysia and my bosses would have a makan-makan session for all of us.
What do you love the most about working from home?
I do not have the Monday blues! I love that I am able to be home with my son and watch him grow and develop. I was there when he sat up for the first time, I was the one to catch his first smile – memories which as a mother is very dear to me. We get to save money on daycare costs, which is exorbitant here in the US. Some working mothers I have spoken to said they actually stopped working outside of the home because when they calculated the daycare costs with how much they were making, they found out it was just a few extra cents, which was so not worth it! I love that I do not waste time commuting and have no overhead costs. I don’t spend money on gas or car maintenance and I feel my time is better spent.
What are your greatest challenges?
House chores. I wish I have a magic wand so they get done without me having to do them having said that, I make sure I do certain things on certain days as to not be overwhelmed by them all, and am lucky enough to have a husband who does chores too. We pick up each other’s slack and I am thankful for that. For example, he would load the dishwasher and I put the dishes away once they are done.
Running a household is a lot of work and some days I slack off and not do certain things, then I would feel like the worse wife/mother ever for not doing them. It is hard to keep a neat home when you have a baby who tears into everything! He recently learned how to open the kitchen cabinets and had a whale of a time taking everything out and rearranging them on the floor all over the house. We put childproof locks on the doors but he managed to work his way around them in less than 5 seconds!
As a former teacher, my previous job required me to meet and be around hundreds of people everyday. Now the only people I see everyday are my husband and son. It can get lonely but I have an active social life outside of work, and I get my fair share of people from those activities.
I’m very active in the local babywearing group and am training to be a Babywearing Educator (BWE). I am also admin of the Malaysian Babywearers Facebook group, where we share and give advice on how parents can babywear safely. Social media really helps keep me connected with others so I don’t feel as secluded as I thought I would be, working from home.
Would you recommend others to work from home? In your opinion and from your experience, is working from home a good idea?
Yes, and yes. I find that working from home allows me to spend better quality time with my family. I also get to work on things I am passionate about – sewing, baking, writing – as I do not have to spend time commuting. I’ve been sharing the things I made with friends and have received orders to make it for them, which is great because now my hobbies are generating an income for me.
I feel like I get more out of the time I have! I love that I do not have to waste time doing things that I can complete at home very quickly. For example, during my one-hour break time, I can eat, run the dishwasher and put a load of laundry into the washing machine. If I am working in a conventional office setting, there is no way I can do all that.
Working at home has its challenges. It is very easy to fall victim to the charm that is your cosy, comfy bed, especially when everyone else is snoozing away. It is hard to focus on work when you have a crying child tugging at your legs, wanting to be held. If your spouse is not very understanding of your work arrangements, then working from home can be a bane rather than something that enriches your life.
I have mad respect for mothers who work out of home and work from home. Being a dedicated mother is a full time job. Some mothers I talked to spoke about feeling guilty, about not being able to ‘be there’ for their kids because they are out working, or feeling like they are wrong for being a stay-at-home-mom and not enjoying it. I always tell them, do not feel bad. Do what you have to do, to put food on the table, to keep your children happy and healthy, and find fulfilment in what you do.
I work because I love being able to put my skills to use. I did go to university and had a career pre-baby, and feel like I have more to contribute to society. A lot of women quit the workforce after they have their babies, which to me is such a loss as women have so much to offer to the world.
If you can work from home, do it. I promise you won’t regret it.